Some of you have been feeling like you have too long of a journey. That there’s really no end in sight because of how much weight you want to lose.
Let me introduce you to my wife Misty before she started the process.
She was 220 lbs in this picture. She was about 24 years old, and 5’5″ in height. She looked much older than she does now.
After she had two children, she kinda let herself go. Honestly, I don’t think she thought about it much.
Anyway, here’s what she looks like at 133 lbs
That’s me behind her just being silly
Here are some of the big questions that people ask.
What made you want to change?
There was no one thing that made me want to change. At some point I realized my life wasn’t going how I wanted it to go. I didn’t have the job I wanted, or live in the place I wanted, and I didn’t look like I wanted to. I had my daughter when I was 18 years old and my son when I was 21 so I just felt like my life wasn’t really going according to the plan.
Everything in my world felt out of control after having kids and I just stopped taking care of myself. My world became taking care of my kids and to me that meant neglecting myself and everything I wanted. One day I just woke up and realized everything is really messed up, I’m poor and unhappy and this is not who I want to be. So, I went back to school and after I finished that I started working on my body.
What did you do to start off?
I knew I was overweight, but honestly I don’t think I really looked at myself in the mirror. Now when I look back at pictures its shocking to me. So, to start I didn’t know much about fitness, but I did know the obvious stuff I was doing wrong.
I was drinking a cappuccino every morning and Dr. Pepper’s throughout the day. The first thing I did was to cut out soda’s and coffee drinks with sugar. I dropped 10 lbs within weeks of doing this. The second thing was I found a friend that got up at 4 A.M and walked three miles everyday. She knew I was working on changing my body so invited me along. I had no excuse…it’s not like I could say I was busy at 4 A.M.
After those two changes I decided to change one meal at a time and nothing else. I knew I couldn’t do diets and I knew if I tried to change everything I’d fail. So, I promised myself for the next few weeks I would eat a healthy breakfast and absolutely nothing else in my diet would change. That’s what I did, one meal at a time became healthier at a very slow pace. I didn’t get super scientific about this either. So before I was eating Captain Crunch or pancakes for breakfast. I changed that to something like eggs and toast.
How do you stay motivated?
It definitely helped that I had a friend I knew was waiting for me at 4 A.M. to walk. So, having someone to exercise with was huge for me. It really wasn’t hard to stay motivated though after I decided that I had enough of being fat.
I made it easy on myself like I said before and only changed very very small things that I knew I could master instead of trying to do it all at once. Then everything became a habit. I looked forward to walking and talking with my friend in the mornings and I got into the routine of cutting out one thing or changing one meal at a time.
What would you say to people who think they can’t do it?
Whether you say you can’t or you can, you’re right. First before you do anything ban yourself from using the words I can’t. You have to decide that you want to be healthy and lose weight, and I mean truly decide. Also for me going slow and making the changes very small helped me stick with it. If I would have went full force into changing everything in my diet I think I would have failed.
So, assess the amount of willpower you have and take the steps you believe you can take. Don’t worry about going all the way in the beginning. Just be willing to start from where you are however small you need to and then once you do that keep going.
I’m crazy proud of my wife. We work out and push each other all the time! It’s something that we don’t always do together, but it’s a good chance to spend time together.
You can change things slow, or change stuff fast. It’s really up to you.
My wife obviously did it slowly. For most people, that’s the best approach. It keeps people from getting overwhelmed and ready to quit.
I changed my body very rapidly. Within a couple of months I was pretty much a new person.